When I was 8 months pregnant with our daughter I became inspired to create a family mission statement. I did not feel I could articulate everything I wanted it to say so I enlisted the help of my husband. At first he declined saying it wasn’t necessary, but after a little prodding (okay, nagging) he gave in. The result was the most beautiful and meaningful set of words I have ever read; mostly because they were written with the utmost love and care a man could have for his family. The words described everything he expected our family to strive for. His expectations were high but he believed we could rise to the challenge. That beautiful family mission statement is still mounted proudly on our wall; residing over our home and reminding us of what we should be working towards and where we hope to be one day.
Today, I mentally reminded myself of the intentional mission he wrote for us as I sat feeling aimless and overwhelmed. It seemed everything had culminated with a poof and I was left sitting in a pile of ashes, sifting through the remains of our future. I had no idea where to begin and then I thought of the mission statement. I came to the realization that our future is just as important as it was then, except now I am the commander; whether I like it or not I must lead this family.
I know I’m not alone in this feeling. While talking with a friend this evening, she noted similar fears. There’s no doubt about it, this is a difficult situation but we (widows, women, people) are capable of directing our steps.
With that said, I would like to invite you to join me in a series of posts focused on creating a mission statement post-loss. The planning will involve identifying needs and desires, establishing measurable goals, and implementing them.
No matter where you are in life I believe it is important to create and implement goals. As widows, it is more important than ever that we choose to take hold of our future and live life intentionally.
I hope you’ll join me on this journey of creating a plan for your future. You won’t regret it!